Don’t take yourself too seriously
When I read Rupi Kaur’s poetry collection ‘Milk and Honey’, I was moved by the simplicity and strength in her words. I was inspired by how powerful words can be.
She cracked her heart open like a walnut. I could resonate with her words, like how she wished she could connect deeper with her father, how she described hurt, love and heartbreak.
‘This book is amazing!’ I told my friend who recommended the book to me.
Intrigued by how this unconventional poetry became a bestseller, I checked out the reviews on ‘Goodreads’. I was surprised to see how mean some people were towards this book when I scrolled down the comments.
Her poetry totally flipped the ways grammar, structure, and punctuation work, but what’s the point of being correct if she couldn’t express herself fully?
I felt relieved learning this truth – even a bestseller has so many haters.
I’m not too sure
I wrote a book that summarises my 5 years of haphazard journey after college, a mini-memoir of sort.
Even though people told me that I am ‘inspiring’ because I did something different and reached for what I wanted, I always have this imposter syndrome lurking deep in me.
When I got the opportunities to speak to students and start-up communities, I questioned myself.
I felt like an imposter because I don’t belong to the category of people who ‘find the product-market fit’, ‘build a sustainable business model’, or ’provide a solution for a big market’.
Who am I? What do I stand for? What do I want?
I am constantly refining my personal statement. I’d gone through a few cycles of building and dismantling to know that I am a seeker and not a quitter. I’ve created a safety net so that I have the freedom to explore life. I am searching and I talk about it. I tell my life story as it is.
Messy and full of puzzles.
What I know
Maybe I can’t talk about building a successful venture, but I can talk about the depth of human experience. I can bare my heart to let people peek into it.
I whispered a silent ‘amen’ when I heard Deepak Chopra saying ‘feel your way through life’ in an interview, because my friend who performs quarterly SWOT for his life would call it rubbish.
When I based my gut feeling on pure ‘feeling’, my friend would correct me and say that it is a trained skill with practice and exposure.
Sure, he is right. And so am I.
The world is big enough and complex enough for all of us to co-exist and co-create.
It is sad that sometimes people focus on what is lacking instead of what is thriving. We can never diminish differences, but love, life, and gratitude are living things that could grow bigger and bigger.
Sometimes I fell into this trap and felt miserable too.
It’s okay that not everyone sees what you see, don’t take yourself too seriously. I’ll remind myself when I come back to my senses.
My life means something when I can write like this.
While I am here, the world is too beautiful to not enjoy it.
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